Lisa says my love language is generosity. I think that's because I truly enjoy giving gifts, it probably gives me more pleasure than than it does to the recipients. Since my friends are scattered all over the country material gifts are all I can give. I can't offer babysitting or a surprise meal when I "see" their lives are a bit crazy or a helping hand with some project or other (I'm so good at organizing!).
I am lucky that at this point in my life I have the financial wherewithal to be generous (within reason - no, sorry but a new car or a mortgage payment or school tuition doesn't fall within my means.)
And not to pat myself on the back I am a primo gift giver. It is one of my few talents. My husband has always marveled at this little knack I have for choosing the right gift. Yet it is so easy to choose the perfect gift - all you need to do is listen. You need to pay attention to what people are NOT saying as well.
Then again, sometimes they do say what they want/need, often in an oblique way. Like a posting that asks if anyone has a something or other they aren't using and might be willing to sell - Ok, here you go - have a brand new one.
For my stressed out, insomniac friends - lavender. Sachets for the linen closet which will scent their bed linens or lavender cologne which can be sprayed on their person, or into the air - lavender is my go-to stress reliever.
And then there is always See's chocolates. I know the favorites of some friends so I can do a personalized selection, just as some folks prefer the classic mix. Chocolate is always a perfect gift except for the folks who are not fond of it. Yes, I know, weird but there are folks who are not big fans of chocolate. Know your people.
I have a friend who seems afraid of using color in her clothing, and I don't know if she ever really wears the gifts I send her but I often gift her items in pale green and in soft floaty fabrics - that is how I see her. Green is the color of the heart chakra and while I am no believer in chakras I know this woman to have the kindest of hearts.
Here's the thing tho - I like to send random gifts. Just because gifts. Please don't expect a birthday gift from me, or a Christmas gift. But mention that there is a little do-dad that might make your life easier or that you can't quite bring yourself to buy for some odd reason - THAT will appear on your doorstep.
With love, from me.